I didn’t know Charlie Kirk personally, but I had occasionally listened to parts of his podcasts, had seen his posts on social media, and last year, I read about him as I was trying to understand some of the leaders on the political right. I admired his brash way of making the case for his faith and his ideas, and his way of inviting college students to debate him. He had a keen mind, and he was great at influencing young people, young men in particular. I appreciated his desire for people to know Christ. Charlie’s politics and faith were more conservative than mine, though there were places we would agree, and others we would disagree. If he knew of me, I think he would be the first to say that.
On Wednesday night, as I was going into a supper with my future son-in-law, I got word that Charlie had died. I was shocked and felt sorrow for him and his family, and thought, this is a tragedy, and I wondered, “What has our country come to?” And I thought of the sermon I’d just finished the night before, on what’s wrong with our culture and how 1 John offers an important corrective.
As I looked at my newsfeed, I saw that some were celebrating his death. Once again, I thought, what has our country come to? It was then that I posted on Facebook and X (I don’t have the exact wording as I changed it later, but this is close), “I just learned Charlie Kirk was killed. Despite the fact that we disagreed on many things, I grieve for his family and lament that this is what American politics, at least for some people, has become. I am praying for his family. Last night, I finished writing my sermon for this weekend, titled Lessons on Culture, Politics, and Religion from 1 John. It seems more poignant now. Our memory verse this weekend is 1 John 4:7-8.”
I prayed for Charlie’s family, then went to supper. It was after supper that I came home and found my social media had blown up with people who were hurt by what I posted, or who felt I was being political, or otherwise that my comments were insensitive or inappropriate, and others who were defending them, and still others who were just jumping in to turn the conversations into political debates. Someone suggested that I turn off the ability to comment, as the conversations were getting so ugly. I didn’t know this was a possibility, but once I learned that you could limit who could reply, I did so. And, trying to understand the concerns, I realized the line that was problematic was this one: “Despite the fact that we disagreed on many things.” I edited the piece and took this line out, but I felt I needed to mention this and apologize for offending.
The last thing I wanted to do was to create a divisive post in the midst of trying to convey my sorrow for Charlie’s death. Charlie and I did hold different views on some things, and had we met, I doubt he would have held back in telling me so, but I believe as followers of Jesus we could have listened and learned from each other, loving one another despite our differences, and I grieve his death.
I quote him in my sermon this weekend, a line on his webpage which I really appreciated, “We heal our divides by talking to people we disagree with…You heal the country when you allow disagreement.” I believe that.
One last thing I want to say and remind you of, and that’s how I hope you post on social media. When I comment on social media, I try to do so with respect and love. I fail sometimes, as happened this week, in failing to understand how my words would sound to some. If you make a mistake, correct it. If you comment on my Facebook or X posts, I’d like to ask you to seek to comment and respond in a manner that follows the Golden Rule. Don’t feel the need to defend me. Don’t attack others or assume the worst of them. And often the best response is no response.
I’d also remind you that of the 70,000 Facebook followers I have, only 15,000 are Resurrection members. Someone said to me, “If the Facebook comments this week reflect your church members, I would not want to come to Resurrection.” I reminded him, 55,000 of my followers go to someone else’s churches.
Let’s be gracious when we post on social media and assume the best and not the worst of the intentions of those who post.
Please pray for Charlie Kirk’s family, his friends and all who grieve his loss, as well as all those who have lost friends and loved ones to senseless violence.
In Christ’s Love,
Adam